Stories of Black Women
Love is the biggest risk you can ever take, but like all the most dangerous ventures, it comes with the biggest payout. “I love you,” he tells me after he tightly clenches the toy I gave him to his chest. After a long day at work, I have taken a taxi to take me to an …
Good relationships are consciously designed. “Forever” is built on a million little “now’s” Relationships are built when you value what it is rather than what you imagine it to be. There is love in your silly attempts to make things better when all you imagine and wish for is grasslands and green pastures. You work on …
Grant your loved ones the gift of feeling understood. When I feel overcome by the urge to be inside my head and remain there when I am with loved ones, I remind myself of these things: Put your urge to speak aside to listen carefully, consciously. You can ogle your loved one to your heart’s …
Let me make this abundantly clear: We choose our reactions, in every moment of our lives. Some of those reactions are helping us to become a better version of ourselves. And some of them turn us into the worst version of ourselves. I’m also guilty of what I’m about to say. We blame the outside …
Do you know what loving yourself or self-love looks like? It looks like: · You choosing to forgive the one who hurt you. Because you know that forgiveness is mostly for you. · You choosing to let go of hatred. Because you want to be free of this burden. It is not easy, mind you. …
Rather than trying to hold it captive. Love is not supposed to hurt If it hurts, something somewhere is off and needs to be reconsidered. When you are in love with someone, everything that you see is colored by that love –including your relationship with that person. If your love is hurting you, something is wrong. If …
“Anger is a hot coal you’re holding waiting to throw it at somebody.” A Buddhist quote There is an inner core that is free no matter the external circumstances Our mindset is not at the mercy of external events. Something makes us angry but that is not where we let the story end. We create …
They are the package. You have to knock the door And enter. Everybody that you love deserves your deliberate focus and attention. If you and your significant other are living in the same house but going through two completely different experiences, then you must make a deliberate effort to enter into their world. I mean, how will …
Yesterday I read an article on how we unknowingly sabotage our own happiness. It is not often that I completely agree with an author’s idea but in this case, I do. Here is part of the article: People aren’t happy on a deeper level. So rather than confront the problem head-on and work to resolve …
Anger is always destructive We give power to our anger more often than we should. Feeling betrayed, feeling hurt, irritation, annoyance, unable to forgive, jealousy, and sarcasm are forms of anger. These feelings might look like something else but they are all forms of anger. We don’t think we are angry that much but we …