Anger is always destructive

We give power to our anger more often than we should. Feeling betrayed, feeling hurt, irritation, annoyance, unable to forgive, jealousy, and sarcasm are forms of anger.

These feelings might look like something else but they are all forms of anger.

We don’t think we are angry that much but we are angrier than we think. Because every time you are feeling those destructive feelings I mentioned, you are feeding your anger.

Nothing rational has ever been done out of anger

You should care about your anger because it destroys everything that you care about including you. Your health, your communication with others, your relationships and your work are affected by it.

You may not feel like that your anger has that much influence on you.

But watch out ——

If you are wondering why you are unable to forgive your romantic partner, check your anger. It might not be the whole part but it definitely has a part in your inability to forgive others.

If you are wondering why you are not getting what you want in life – like a promotion or getting along with a co-worker or having better communications with others, check if there is a wave of underlying anger that is preventing you from achieving what you want.

The answer, at least in part, comes from resolving anger

How to deal with anger

By not denying that it exists: turning your back on your anger and lying to yourself that you don’t have any anger until forever is very detrimental. You cannot solve what you do not acknowledge.

So?

What is the solution?

Acknowledge anger. As it happens.

When you are crying over something, you realize that you are crying. That is acknowledgement. When someone makes you laugh you realize that you are laughing. That is acknowledgement. When someone enters a room you realize that someone has entered the room. That is acknowledgement.

Similarly, acknowledge your anger:

· Without lashing out that you are angry (that defeats the purpose of acknowledging your emotion: in this case anger).

·Without judging your anger (when you judge your anger, you give it power over you).

“Whenever our anger comes up, all we need to do is recognize it and call it by its name.” Thich Nhat Hanh

Here is how I manage my anger: Inspiring Outlet For Anger

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To your inspirations,

Banchi