Stories of Black Women
We are defined by how we respond to them. Blaming a situation is a roadblock to any kind of growth When I was a teenager, my dad taught me how to play Chess. He would make time after school hours so that we can play together. I hated it — not playing with my dad, but the game itself: …
Embrace that nothing in life is free. This fact is always true in any kind of self-improvement you are making in your own life. In the words of Andrew Carnegie, “Anything in life that is worth having is worth working out.” In life, you get what you put out there. That means, not only do …
Yesterday I read an article on how we unknowingly sabotage our own happiness. It is not often that I completely agree with an author’s idea but in this case, I do. Here is part of the article: People aren’t happy on a deeper level. So rather than confront the problem head-on and work to resolve …
If you struggle with seeing the positive side of things, you cannot have a healthy perspective on life. We cannot survive in this world or be the best that we can be without first being positive. Carrying negativity is like an emptiness that seems too dark and vast. If you are swimming in it, you …
In a classroom full of students, a professor asks: If you had $86, 400.00 and someone stole $10.00 from you, would you throw away the $86, 390.00 you still have to try and get your $10.00 back? Or would you just let it go? They all said they would let it go. Then he told …
Being your own boss is glorious. I am not talking about having your own company or business in your name. I am talking about having the emotional resilience to cope in stressful situations. Having faith that when the pressure or emotions were raised, you would be able to manage. There are many battles we cannot …
Look at yourself objectively We tend to look at ourselves subjectively. On the one hand, this seems like you are not supposed to care – about yourself. But on the other hand, we can see clearly what we are feeling and what we are doing if we look at ourselves objectively. Take my writing for …
· In confrontation: your intention is to attack, not to communicate. · In conversation: you have the intention of communicating, really communicating with the other person. To listen, to learn, and to understand the other person you have to have conversations – not confrontations. The only reason you feel like you are having difficulties understanding …
Anger is always destructive We give power to our anger more often than we should. Feeling betrayed, feeling hurt, irritation, annoyance, unable to forgive, jealousy, and sarcasm are forms of anger. These feelings might look like something else but they are all forms of anger. We don’t think we are angry that much but we …
We cannot be successful if we rely on inspiration from an external source. 1. Do Not Rely On Inspiration If you struggle with motivating yourself, you cannot successfully climb the ladder of growth or any kind of success. We cannot move forward or be in a position to fight challenges that are definitely going to …