Stories of Black Women
Nobody can bulletproof a relationship because bullets come from the outside and things that shatter a relationship come from the inside. Casually thrown hurtful words Words are like bullets. Once you pull the trigger, you can’t take them back. You can express remorse or say you are sorry, but that is not the same. We …
Without the willingness to build a relationship, love loses its luster. Have you ever thought you could love someone enough to make your relationship work? Have you been in a relationship where you knew you weren’t thrilled, but you kept saying, “I love him. Isn’t that enough?” When my ex whispered his love, a grin …
# 2. Work at your relationship when there are no more grasslands. No green pastures. No streamlined rivers. No rainbows. I have a friend whose relationship is different from mine. I have a whole life without my partner: friends, interests, and pursuits. I don’t want him to be with me all the time. I’ve learned …
#4. Pursue deeply personal interests. Things went south and she knew deep in her heart she was right and her husband was wrong. And yet… She treated him with kindness, respect, and dignity. I know this man. He’s one of my students. His wife has the kind of beauty that stops traffic. When this man …
We kill our relationship in the very hands that carved it. You know that feeling in the pit of your stomach that tells you that you can’t wait to see your love, that you can’t sleep or eat or do anything because you are counting the minutes till you see him again? Is it time …
When you love someone, you choose to see yourself and your partner as separate entities. In healthy love, you are individuals having your own dreams, likes, wants, and needs. You each have your whole lives without the other. You choose to honor what your partner wants even if you don’t want that thing. When you …
The most common blind spots in relationships and what you can do about them. We all – every one of us – exhibit patterns of behavior that are obvious to everyone but that we ourselves cannot see. We will deny that they exist. These are our “bling spots”. Carl Jung called them our “shadow”. Blind …
#3. Open your heart — like children — until you hear it crack “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it …