Right now, that’s the best thing you can do. “Lots of people are feeling unproductive. But if you successfully infect zero people with the virus, seriously, you’ve been extremely productive.” — Doctor and journalist, James Hamblin Hanging out with my nurse friend, drinking red wine on her beautiful porch, is one of the many things …
See How Easily You Can Boost Your Self-Esteem
A lesson learned from watching a creepy movie. A scene that made my skin crawl taught me how to boost my low self-esteem. In a super creepy movie, “When a stranger calls,” a woman keeps getting increasingly concerning calls. A man on the line asks, “Have you checked your children?” When the woman finally calls …
Five Important Lessons I’ve Learned in Becoming a Strong Woman
#2 — Find your voice. Her husband made all decisions in their company. She needed his input for every tiny detail. She spoke only inside her head, nodding to herself. She had no female friends. She showed little emotion beyond biting, cold indifference — unless pushed. Then, sometimes…came violent rage. She treated all her employees, …
Your Best Career Decision Requires A “To-Feel” List
Allow your feelings to guide your career path. I said no to an offer that paid twice what I was earning before. It was a hard decision. Listening to my feelings terrified me. I needed the money, but the job felt wrong. I knew it was wrong. I was supposed to sell products I didn’t …
What It’s Like to Fight Racial Microaggressions as a Black Woman
I will never forget the time when a white colleague said to me, “When I look at you, I don’t see color. I don’t see you as a black person.” He was saying, “Race doesn’t matter to me. I am not a racist.” But I heard, “I am denying a big part of who you …
What My Friend’s Sudden Death Taught Me About How to Live Life Today
The sudden death of my dear friend taught me the fleetingness of life. I witnessed her car flipping over on the highway like a matchbox. She was 31. I can rage at the injustice and the cruelty of her death. But that won’t bring her back. We lose people we’re close to. Life has no …
Some Practical Advice on Finding Hope in Dark Times
Never underestimate the power of small pleasures that provide hope. For the first time in the planet’s history, every country bleeds by this COVID pandemic. The world feels dark. Our sun is hiding its face behind dark clouds, as if weeping its sorrows upon the land. The pandemic has laid us bare.The darkness feels like …
Why You Need to Believe in Yourself to Actualize a Successful Life
Lesson on the power of your belief in yourself from an experiment in the 1990s. In an experiment conducted from the 1990s, a group of Asian-American women were asked to take a math test. Two popular stereotypes came into play. The first was the expectation that Asians are good at math. The second was the …
Surviving Your Emotions in COVID-19 Times
You are not unproductive for pulling over, resting, and waiting. You cannot keep driving down the highway if something blocks your vision. Right now, being productive means refraining our dramatically changed goals. These days, I slumber in my soft blanket for hours -without doing anything. Every time I try to think of an article idea, …
What Women Find the Most Attractive in Men
8 qualities. Study after study has confirmed that while women choose better looking guys for flings, they fall for other qualities for long-term relationships. I spil5led a full drink on my boyfriend when we first met, in a global company meeting. He had put on a lot of care into how he dressed. It was …