By asking one heart-wrenching question. Will you still hate the person who soul-crushed you if that person ceases to exist tomorrow? Will your heart still shimmer with bitterness and hatred? Will you still like to see him burn? How to forgive a soul-crushing betrayal? To your inspirations, Banchi
Category: Emotions
Your House Is Burning Down While You Are Chasing the Arsonist. Sounds Unbelievable, But That Is What Anger Makes Us Do
A short guide to cool the flames of anger. For most of my life, anger defined me. I chased the culprit, the perpetrator, the enemy like the devil was upon me. You are not the daughter of my dreams. My dad would say those words and I chased this person who hurt me with his …
11 Insights In Building Your Relationship From A Couple Whose Marriage Is 25-Year-Old
A healthy relationship is something you cultivate. They showed us how love does not waltz away with the currents of emotion. This month, the Institute I work for invited all employees to a 25-year-old marriage celebration. We enjoyed the delicious food but those of us who attended the dinner party got something more valuable. Insights …
Love Is Not Possessive
Healthy love wants your loved one to be happy, even if that happiness is with someone else. He ran away from me like he was escaping from a prison cell. We were in our 20’s and our love was epic. I loved him. He said he loved me. That meant he belonged to me. Earth …
9 Red Flags In Relationships
Nobody can bulletproof a relationship. 1. Casually thrown hurtful words Words are like bullets. Once you pull the trigger, you can’t take them back. You can express remorse or say you are sorry, but that is not the same. We all make mistakes. We say hurtful things to the ones we love the most. But …
This Is How You Plant Your Feet And Stand Rooted In Your Relationship
Building your relationship is a lot more important than having one. A colleague of mine, after one year marriage, told me she is getting a divorce. “Huh? What happened?” I asked. I was expecting monumental reasons like maybe he has cheated or she has or something serious enough to break their marriage. “We have grown …
This Is Why You Need To Forgive Those Who Hurt You
Anything you gain by refusing to forgive is certainly far less desirable. I met someone who betrayed me in a crowded restaurant a few weeks ago. He had been my mentor many years ago. When he asked me to loan him money for his training center, I did not hesitate. I loaned him lots of …
What To Do When Anger Is Trying To Take Over You
Think of winning the war not just the battle. You stare at your opponent not listening to a word he is saying. You try to stay firm on your principles, but they are losing their holding on the ground. Your knees start shaking. You ask yourself an internal question. “Am I going to explode?” “Why …
Happiness Is An Inside Job
Happiness isn’t something that is deserved or earned from something outside yourself. Looking for happiness outside of you is like expecting the speaker of the ‘Happiness’ seminar to show you the sun you can’t otherwise seem to find. Even when it is right above you in the sky. You are only ripping yourself apart by …
How Lasting Love Looks Like
Lasting love allows you to get rid of the mask. A rock was weighing on my soul for the past few days. No light and a twinkle in my eyes. All because a colleague stole my idea and presented it to my boss. I curled up like a fetus and sobbed uncontrollably. My partner drew me …