There are a lot of different types of communication.

There’s communication that does not give the other person a single moment from the day. There’s communication that seems like your heart and your ears are involved in it, but actually they are not. Only your physical body is there, but you are not listening.

There’s communication that focuses on you and only you.

There’s communication that fights tooth and nail to deny the other person to talk, then you would be the only one who talks and talks.

There’s silent communication that loves to be silent all the time. And there’s loud communication whereby everyone talks and no one can hear a single message from all the shouting matches.

There’s zero communication that holds conversations inside your own head instead of really being with the other person.

There is jealous communication that hates another talking, another person having his say, another person stealing all the attention that is out there. And then there is shallow communication where you thrive on interrupting the other person as much as possible.

There’s communication that shows no empathy and there’s communication that just won’t seem to ever try to really understand the other person.

There’s communication that never seems to get along with the other person’s opinion, and there’s communication rooted in a foundation of its own opinion.

There’s communication you move every of your muscles into a fight because you do not agree with what the other person is saying.

There’s communication you know is wrong for you but you can’t get out of it since it has become a habit.

There’s communication that only figures itself out after it has happened and that communication tells you in your sixth sense that you could have been a better communicator.

There’s could-have-been communication, and there’s never-should-have-been communication.

So which of these types of communication do you exhibit when you converse with others?

At the end of the day, communication ultimately comes down to being a choice.

A choice to be a better communicator, a choice to listen to others, a choice to speak less, a choice not to take disagreements personally, a choice to empathize, a choice to learn from every conversation and a choice to choose to be a better effective communicator every time.

Communication can be a lot of different kinds, but the best kind of communication is the one that you envision for yourself.

Call me an idealist, but don’t you feel when you are in a conversation some of these things or all of them?

Don’t you feel like the world is yours when:

· The other person listens to you with full attention,

· The body gesture of the other person tells you that he/she is with you 100%,

· Even though you are speaking something the other person does not agree with, he/she is still listening to you,

· Not once have you been interrupted by the person next to you,

· You got a feeling that you should look into a person’s eye next time you are having conversations, because this person is looking at you the whole time,

· You feel valued.

There exists within you an idea of what communication could look like.

It is embedded deep down beneath your refusal to listen to others, not really communicating and just giving in to your ego to be the only one who talks.

The communication you secretly dream about, you can have.

You just have to work hard for it.

And then you will be an inspirational effective communicator.

This Effective Communication I am talking about, makes all the other types pallor in comparison!

This is the only communication worth having.

Trust me, you will be a better person for it.

Here are inspirational ways to improve your communication skills and social skills!

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To your Inspirations,

Banchi