By asking one heart-wrenching question. Will you still hate the person who soul-crushed you if that person ceases to exist tomorrow? Will your heart still shimmer with bitterness and hatred? Will you still like to see him burn? How to forgive a soul-crushing betrayal? To your inspirations, Banchi
Tag: Self-Awareness
Your House Is Burning Down While You Are Chasing the Arsonist. Sounds Unbelievable, But That Is What Anger Makes Us Do
A short guide to cool the flames of anger. For most of my life, anger defined me. I chased the culprit, the perpetrator, the enemy like the devil was upon me. You are not the daughter of my dreams. My dad would say those words and I chased this person who hurt me with his …
The Boundaries That Help You Stop Being A Doormat
Your discomfort for the benefit of others is not healthy for either of you. I am no longer the “perfect woman”. Like a bee running towards honey, the need of others called out to me. When someone wanted anything from me I was compelled to provide it. Otherwise, they would not want to be with …
How To Know When To Quit
Here are ways you can stop banging your head against a wall and instead walk through an open door. Yes, yes. Persevere. Endure. Push forward, steadfast. Don’t ever quit. Except, sometimes quitting is good for you. What is this effort and pride — without any reward — costing you? Are there amazing things you could be doing with the same amount …
What Winning An Argument Really Means
It’s not about trying to win come hell or high water. Some people are experts in delivering the perfect knock-out verbal punches. Maybe you’ve noticed. They have the just-right poison of cocktail of words. They drop these bombs to you and you stand there, powerless and hurt. I was in a company meeting the other …
Delightfully Discovering This Interesting Person You Are Through Exploring
Nobody will be able to find the you, you are looking for, for you. In high school, competition among students helped us to know our friends better. A teacher would pick a student and ask about his close friend. What is his close friend’s favorite food? Favorite sport? Favorite color? What does he like? Is …
For Anyone Who Feels Like Your Mind Won’t Ever Switch Off (Lesson on Mindfulness)
Let yourself take a minute to be mindful. our mind betrays you sometimes. Not just sometimes but most of the time. Why? Because it is thinking of a million things at the same time. It is organizing a million things at the same time. My to-do list for today. Emails to check. Calls to answer. …
What If You Care More?
Without caring, life is like the bottom of the ocean. Frigid and sunless. There are forces like love and caring and wonder and connection that can overpower anything you are going through. In every one of us, a light shines with the intensity of a thousand blazing suns. Continue reading …. To your inspirations, Banchi
Just Breathe
“Healing is every breath.” — Thich Nhat Hanh Someone says something awful to you and you just stand there, powerless and hurt. Your body is trembling. You are thinking of the just-right poison cocktail of words you are dying to deliver. The perfect knock-out verbal punch. In the meantime, your breathing has become shallow. Your …
Why You Need Emotional Intelligence To Be Successful
Think the street hustler who can’t even spell his own name. But somehow talks you into giving him the shirt off your back. “Lisa drove 15 hours straight, in a diaper, from Houston to Orlando, to confront her boyfriend’s new squeeze in an airport parking lot. Lisa packed zip ties, pepper spray, and large garbage …