The most common blind spots in relationships and what you can do about them. We all – every one of us – exhibit patterns of behavior that are obvious to everyone but that we ourselves cannot see. We will deny that they exist. These are our “bling spots”. Carl Jung called them our “shadow”. Blind …
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The Best Relationship Advice Ever Committed to Words Is 118-Years-Old. Here’s Why.
Give space. Of all the romantic gestures, standing guard over the solitude of the one you love triumphs everything else. This choice is an act of strength and self-transcendence when all one wants is closeness. This difficult act may be the very thing – perhaps the only thing – that saves your relationship over and …
Relationship Advice From a 1960s Experiment About Not Setting Out to Prove a Point to Your Partner
You don’t build your relationship when you settle for proving yourself right. In the 1960s, Peter Wason, a psychologist, conducted an experiment. It is called a 2-4-6 task. It’s a fascinating riddle where you get to play with numbers. In the riddle, a sequence of three numbers governs its rule. Some sequences pass the rule …
Stop Treating People Like Pawns In a Game
Treating our loved ones like game pieces accomplishes the opposite of what we want. Too often, we treat people as pawns in a game. We do this especially to those we love the most. An experienced chess player knows when to move his pawns, how to move them, and when to sacrifice them — to …
4 Ways To Be Emotionally Available in Your Relationship
#3. Open your heart — like children — until you hear it crack “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it …
The Power of Vulnerability to Strengthen Human Connection
Meet others through your most laid bare self. Do you march through life stoically, your heart neatly sealed, safe from the joys and sorrows of life? When I walked into a training hall of 30 students, who sat far away from each other, I felt the energy of fear. I was also projecting my own. …
Love Is Not What You Want, It Is What You Are
You must give love because you have it to give. Spending time with my grandfather was one of the most memorable moments of my life. He was a charismatic man where he built his home by sharing his love. Month after month, year after year, I had seen the way he loved his wife. I had …
11 Insights In Building Your Relationship From A Couple Whose Marriage Is 25-Year-Old
A healthy relationship is something you cultivate. They showed us how love does not waltz away with the currents of emotion. This month, the Institute I work for invited all employees to a 25-year-old marriage celebration. We enjoyed the delicious food but those of us who attended the dinner party got something more valuable. Insights …
Love Is Not Possessive
Healthy love wants your loved one to be happy, even if that happiness is with someone else. He ran away from me like he was escaping from a prison cell. We were in our 20’s and our love was epic. I loved him. He said he loved me. That meant he belonged to me. Earth …
Don’t Run From Vulnerability, Embrace It
You should stop trying to seal your heart. Remaining in emotional solitary confinement costs us. There is a cost to making your heart neatly sealed, safe from the joys and sorrows of life. I never heard my dad talk about his feelings. He never told me he loved me in words. He sucked it all …