A gentle reminder to black women to wear their faces proudly. “Some people say we got a lot of maliceSome say it’s a lotta nerveBut I say we won’t quit movin’Until we get what we deserve …Say it loud – I’m black and I’m proud!” James Brown lyrics from “Say It Loud – I’m Black and …
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The Cost of Suppressed, Repressed, Diverted and Ignored Anger
And why you need to be aware of your anger so it doesn’t become your boss. When I am angry I wonder what on earth I can do to not be angry. My anger disappoints me – I should be able to control, contain myself. I’ve learned it’s not possible to not be angry. “Anger …
Women Are Tired of The Stigma Around Female Rage
We want to see safe spaces for black women to express our justifiable anger. The stigma around female rage was, buried in the middle of a long paragraph, ‘too angry’. A few days ago, as part of a promotion conversation, my boss was giving me feedback and reading out a list of things that would …
How To Be Honorable As A Woman And Demolish The Double Standards
The two ways you can accept any special treatment as a privilege and not a right. Any special treatment a woman gets (such as not paying for lunch) is a privilege and not a right. Yes, I am a woman, and I came to this conclusion and I hate having to admit it. I have …
The ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Get’ Feminist Idea Is Failing Women
We want equal opportunities where we could compete with our male counterparts. There’s a feminist idea that seems like it’s empowering but actually puts women at a disadvantage. A couple of weeks ago, some of my male colleagues were given a salary raise as part of their annual review process. I was not given one. …
Women Are Still Judged Harshly for Being Emotional
We don’t have to self-censor, edit, and apologize for expressing our emotions. Perhaps we judge women for being emotional because we suppress our emotions. Perhaps we inhibit women from expressing their emotions because we were not allowed to do so ourselves. Perhaps we fear the emotional intensity of seeing someone express their emotions – especially …