2. You abandon parts of you (from your hobbies to your friends to your job). I don’t buy into the notion that commitment has to mean detention, confinement, obligation, or burden. I’m committed to who my partner is and to who he can be rather than committed to the things that bind us, or the …
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5 Relationship Deal Breakers We Can Learn From My Friend’s Nasty Breakup
# 2. Possessive love prisons someone you love Their relationship was not only potentially toxic but combustible. It threatened to self-destruct by the time you finished reading this article. My friend would say she needed space but her boyfriend never allowed her space. He never allowed her to be on her own. She loved it …
Relationship Blindspots: How to Stop Missing What’s Right in Front of You
The most common blind spots in relationships and what you can do about them. We all – every one of us – exhibit patterns of behavior that are obvious to everyone but that we ourselves cannot see. We will deny that they exist. These are our “bling spots”. Carl Jung called them our “shadow”. Blind …
The Best Relationship Advice Ever Committed to Words Is 118-Years-Old. Here’s Why.
Give space. Of all the romantic gestures, standing guard over the solitude of the one you love triumphs everything else. This choice is an act of strength and self-transcendence when all one wants is closeness. This difficult act may be the very thing – perhaps the only thing – that saves your relationship over and …
Relationship Advice From a 1960s Experiment About Not Setting Out to Prove a Point to Your Partner
You don’t build your relationship when you settle for proving yourself right. In the 1960s, Peter Wason, a psychologist, conducted an experiment. It is called a 2-4-6 task. It’s a fascinating riddle where you get to play with numbers. In the riddle, a sequence of three numbers governs its rule. Some sequences pass the rule …
Stop Treating People Like Pawns In a Game
Treating our loved ones like game pieces accomplishes the opposite of what we want. Too often, we treat people as pawns in a game. We do this especially to those we love the most. An experienced chess player knows when to move his pawns, how to move them, and when to sacrifice them — to …
Treating Men As ATMs Is Hardly Ever Criticized
Let us stop objectifying men based on their finances. She told me something horrid. One of my colleagues had been seeing this guy for over a year. When I asked about their relationship, her answer wiped every trace of smile from my face. Me: “How is your relationship?” Her: “I broke up with him.” Me: …
Loving Someone Does Not Give Us the License To Control That Person
4 signs you may have control issues in your relationship. Love thrives when you take someone you love exactly as they are and you communicate who you are clearly and honestly so they can do the same for you. This is the paradox of love: You can’t control another person’s behavior. One of my friend’s …
You Deserve a Relationship That Stretches You, Instead of Withering You
Don’t diminish you in the name of making room for your relationship. “The best relationships of any kind — romantic or otherwise — are the ones that encourage us, expand us, inspire us, rather than the ones that shrink, contain, diminish, entrap or shackle us.” –Dushka Zapata We deserve a relationship that stretches us instead …
4 Ways To Be Emotionally Available in Your Relationship
#3. Open your heart — like children — until you hear it crack “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it …