Stories of Black Women
You can learn to take your emotional temperature and deal with your emotions. I regret every action I took when uncontrollable emotions enslaved me. Last week, someone standing behind me in a supermarket said something awful to me and I stood there, powerless and hurt. I wanted to smack this stranger who watched me with …
Cultivate a habit of impatience about things you most want to do. A friend is diagnosed with stage IV breast cancer last week. The rogue cells in her body have become enemies that are eating her body away. She is 33 years old. When a dear friend is fighting for her life, you’re reminded of …
Lessons from my student who died at 53 with only 10 people attending his funeral. My student hustled, sweated, and drove himself straight into the grave. A complication of hypertension he had for years took his life while he was sleeping. Only 10 people attended his funeral. 10 people who got the hell out of …
You can’t run from what can’t be outrun. In my 20s, life’s nasty bits poured a bucket of ice water on my head when a guy I dated for 3 years cheated on me. I could not bear to accept what happened. I removed myself from life. Instead of admitting someone I loved had shattered …
Pulled from the ocean of the internet. I was deeply sorry I opened my Gmail inbox. Sorry I’ve subscribed to nonsense where they send me useless content, whenever they want. Sorry I wasted my energy and time on opening and reading my email. Has that happened to you? You sign in to your Gmail account …
Even in the middle of a great struggle, there are things to be thankful for. “Wear gratitude like a cloak and it will feed every corner of your life.” -Rumi Counting your blessings with clear intention might make you feel better in these troubled times. While I would love to grow old with my best …
They are hollow. Platitudes are words that are used not for connection, but for distancing – to make the person uttering them feel safer. My best friend is in the midst of a crisis right now. She just had a miscarriage. These days, she sinks into sadness too deep for words. She may appear …
By taking responsibility, you fight less. You get angry less. You feel offended less. And you suffer less. In 1864, a young man was thinking of killing himself. He was depressed and so far his life had been full of failures. He then made a deal with himself. He is going to take responsibility for …
8 Takeaways… “What is your best life lesson in 2020?” I outsourced this question. I wanted to get the reader’s insight. I wanted to know what my blog readers have learned from this dark year. My email got swamped with responses from all over the world. My youngest subscriber is 21 years old from South …
Nobody will be able to find the you, you are looking for, for you. In high school, competition among students helped us to know our friends better. A teacher would pick a student and ask about his close friend. What is his close friend’s favorite food? Favorite sport? Favorite color? What does he like? Is …