To be feminist in any authentic self, incorporating the challenges of racism is essential. I’m sick of participating in feminist spaces built for the needs of white women. I feel like at best, I can fight it, at worst I have to learn to cope in it. I’ve participated in feminist spaces where a large …
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This Is What Every Woman Must Learn in Life
Eight important qualities. Her husband made all decisions in their company, not her. She needed him for every tiny detail. She spoke only inside her head, nodding to herself. She had no female friends. She showed little emotion beyond biting, cold indifference – unless pushed. Then, sometimes…came violent rage. She treated all her employees, both …
The ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Get’ Feminist Idea Is Failing Women
We want equal opportunities where we could compete with our male counterparts. There’s a feminist idea that seems like it’s empowering but actually puts women at a disadvantage. A couple of weeks ago, some of my male colleagues were given a salary raise as part of their annual review process. I was not given one. …
Women Are Still Judged Harshly for Being Emotional
We don’t have to self-censor, edit, and apologize for expressing our emotions. Perhaps we judge women for being emotional because we suppress our emotions. Perhaps we inhibit women from expressing their emotions because we were not allowed to do so ourselves. Perhaps we fear the emotional intensity of seeing someone express their emotions – especially …
Five Important Lessons I’ve Learned in Becoming a Strong Woman
#2 — Find your voice. Her husband made all decisions in their company. She needed his input for every tiny detail. She spoke only inside her head, nodding to herself. She had no female friends. She showed little emotion beyond biting, cold indifference — unless pushed. Then, sometimes…came violent rage. She treated all her employees, …