Stop trying to seal your heart. Remaining in emotional solitary confinement costs us. There is a cost to making your heart neatly sealed, safe from the joys and sorrows of life. I never heard my dad talk about his feelings. He never told me he loved me in words. He sucked it all in, where …
How Do You Love?
When you love someone, you choose to see yourself and your partner as separate entities. In healthy love, you are individuals having your own dreams, likes, wants, and needs. You each have your whole lives without the other. You choose to honor what your partner wants even if you don’t want that thing. When you …
This Is What Every Woman Must Learn in Life
Eight important qualities. Her husband made all decisions in their company, not her. She needed him for every tiny detail. She spoke only inside her head, nodding to herself. She had no female friends. She showed little emotion beyond biting, cold indifference – unless pushed. Then, sometimes…came violent rage. She treated all her employees, both …
4 Signs You Fail to Represent Yourself in Your Relationship
2. You abandon parts of you (from your hobbies to your friends to your job). I don’t buy into the notion that commitment has to mean detention, confinement, obligation, or burden. I’m committed to who my partner is and to who he can be rather than committed to the things that bind us, or the …
5 Relationship Deal Breakers We Can Learn From My Friend’s Nasty Breakup
# 2. Possessive love prisons someone you love Their relationship was not only potentially toxic but combustible. It threatened to self-destruct by the time you finished reading this article. My friend would say she needed space but her boyfriend never allowed her space. He never allowed her to be on her own. She loved it …
Relationship Blindspots: How to Stop Missing What’s Right in Front of You
The most common blind spots in relationships and what you can do about them. We all – every one of us – exhibit patterns of behavior that are obvious to everyone but that we ourselves cannot see. We will deny that they exist. These are our “bling spots”. Carl Jung called them our “shadow”. Blind …
The Best Relationship Advice Ever Committed to Words Is 118-Years-Old. Here’s Why.
Give space. Of all the romantic gestures, standing guard over the solitude of the one you love triumphs everything else. This choice is an act of strength and self-transcendence when all one wants is closeness. This difficult act may be the very thing – perhaps the only thing – that saves your relationship over and …
The ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Get’ Feminist Idea Is Failing Women
We want equal opportunities where we could compete with our male counterparts. There’s a feminist idea that seems like it’s empowering but actually puts women at a disadvantage. A couple of weeks ago, some of my male colleagues were given a salary raise as part of their annual review process. I was not given one. …
Relationship Advice From a 1960s Experiment About Not Setting Out to Prove a Point to Your Partner
You don’t build your relationship when you settle for proving yourself right. In the 1960s, Peter Wason, a psychologist, conducted an experiment. It is called a 2-4-6 task. It’s a fascinating riddle where you get to play with numbers. In the riddle, a sequence of three numbers governs its rule. Some sequences pass the rule …
Stop Treating People Like Pawns In a Game
Treating our loved ones like game pieces accomplishes the opposite of what we want. Too often, we treat people as pawns in a game. We do this especially to those we love the most. An experienced chess player knows when to move his pawns, how to move them, and when to sacrifice them — to …