They are hollow. Platitudes are words that are used not for connection, but for distancing – to make the person uttering them feel safer. My best friend is in the midst of a crisis right now. She just had a miscarriage. These days, she sinks into sadness too deep for words. She may appear …
13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don’t Do
Lessons from Amy Morin’s book, 13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don’t Do. Women continue to face unique challenges in today’s world. Every woman who strives to become a little stronger today than she was yesterday needs to read Amy’s book. I recommended the book to one of my students when she asked for my advice. …
White Feminism Still Prevails
To be feminist in any authentic self, incorporating the challenges of racism is essential. I’m sick of participating in feminist spaces built for the needs of white women. I feel like at best, I can fight it, at worst I have to learn to cope in it. I’ve participated in feminist spaces where a large …
Couples I Know On 8 Attractive Qualities That Make Them Love Their Partner More
#4. Pursue deeply personal interests. Things went south and she knew deep in her heart she was right and her husband was wrong. And yet… She treated him with kindness, respect, and dignity. I know this man. He’s one of my students. His wife has the kind of beauty that stops traffic. When this man …
11 Signs That You Are Suffocating Your Beautifully Crafted Relationship To Death
We kill our relationship in the very hands that carved it. You know that feeling in the pit of your stomach that tells you that you can’t wait to see your love, that you can’t sleep or eat or do anything because you are counting the minutes till you see him again? Is it time …
Stop Indifference From Ruining Your Relationship
Do something, anything to demolish indifference before someone you love becomes a roommate, an acquaintance, a stranger. “When you love someone, the best thing you can offer is your presence. How can you love if you are not there?” — Thich Nhat Hanh Indifference is not caring what the other person thinks, feels, and does …
Here’s How I Healed the Wound of Someone I Loved for 4 Years Cheating On Me
If someone you love cheated on you, this one is for you. The sun had barely crested the horizon when I saw the man I loved for 4 years kissing another woman on the hospital bed. I wanted to unsee what my eyes saw. I averted my eyes and looked out the window at the …
You Are Responsible For Everything You Do In Your Life, No Matter The External Circumstances
By taking responsibility, you fight less. You get angry less. You feel offended less. And you suffer less. In 1864, a young man was thinking of killing himself. He was depressed and so far his life had been full of failures. He then made a deal with himself. He is going to take responsibility for …
How to Grow From Difficult Emotions
Pay attention to all the colors that form your emotional palette. We assume difficult emotions, mean demons within, shatter us when they suffocate us. We deny these battles we wage daily their right to feel and end up suffering. We forget difficult emotions, when unprocessed, stagnate and fester. They acidify and become corrosive. Difficult emotions, …
How To Heal When Painful Emotions Break You
Lesson from the unforgettable painful emotions recovery advice my grandfather gave me. Have you ever wished to expel the demons your painful emotions create in your body? Have you ever wished to shine a light on your painful emotions? Have you ever wished to enter into the room where you’ve locked your painful emotions and …