We want our workspace to be free of sexual harassment and other forms of discrimination. The harassment started with blatant flirtation. On Zoom meetings, he exclaimed, “Wow, you look really good in that top! Your voice sounds sexy this morning!” “Stop flirting with me,” I begged. He did not listen. He then sent me a …
An Open Letter To My Black Friend Who Is Getting Surgery To Change Her Features To “Fit In” White Institutions
A gentle reminder to black women to wear their faces proudly. “Some people say we got a lot of maliceSome say it’s a lotta nerveBut I say we won’t quit movin’Until we get what we deserve …Say it loud – I’m black and I’m proud!” James Brown lyrics from “Say It Loud – I’m Black and …
Finding Your Unique Gift to the World
Your heart is the only place your gift resides. The only place. She could easily have settled into a life of ease at her family’s country mansion. Instead, she chose a path of arduous commitment to caring for others. She could have lived a rich life (in the material sense) doing nothing. She could have …
Life Is Short. Don’t Wait to Do Things That Matter.
Cultivate a habit of impatience about things you most want to do. A friend is diagnosed with stage IV breast cancer last week. The rogue cells in her body have become enemies that are eating her body away. She is 33 years old. When a dear friend is fighting for her life, you’re reminded of …
The Cost of Suppressed, Repressed, Diverted and Ignored Anger
And why you need to be aware of your anger so it doesn’t become your boss. When I am angry I wonder what on earth I can do to not be angry. My anger disappoints me – I should be able to control, contain myself. I’ve learned it’s not possible to not be angry. “Anger …
Women Are Tired of The Stigma Around Female Rage
We want to see safe spaces for black women to express our justifiable anger. The stigma around female rage was, buried in the middle of a long paragraph, ‘too angry’. A few days ago, as part of a promotion conversation, my boss was giving me feedback and reading out a list of things that would …
10 Things Emotionally Strong People Do
# 4. They process painful emotions. Do you ever wish you could be more emotionally strong? . Do you ever feel like your emotions are all over the place? . Or like your moods ping-pong around erratically and unpredictably? . Do you ever wish you could feel a little less at the mercy of external …
Writers, Newsletters, Personal Essays, and Books I Read Every Word of in 2021,
Instead of skimming One of my favorite things in life is reading genuinely insightful articles and books. There is something so special about them. Something so telling about the kind of experience you are about to have, and judging by the writers and books I’m going to tell you about, I was in for a …
Reminders on the Top of Your To-Do List That Will Help You Avoid the Biggest Regrets of the Dying
Lessons from my student who died at 53 with only 10 people attending his funeral. My student hustled, sweated, and drove himself straight into the grave. A complication of hypertension he had for years took his life while he was sleeping. Only 10 people attended his funeral. 10 people who got the hell out of …
9 Most Important Questions to Ask Yourself to Thrive in 2022
5. If a doctor gave you one year to live, what would you try to accomplish? Nothing like a dark year to teach you what’s important in life. Asking yourself important questions can guide you. It can help you decide on what the person in the mirror really wants in life. You can use these …