#3. Open your heart — like children — until you hear it crack “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it …
Relationship Advice from a 1960s Experiment about Not Setting Out to Prove a Point to Your Partner
You don’t build your relationship when you settle for proving yourself right. In the 1960s, Peter Wason, a psychologist, conducted an experiment. It is called a 2–4–6 task. It’s a fascinating riddle where you get to play with numbers. In the riddle, a sequence of three numbers governs its rule. Some sequences pass the rule, …
What To Do To Love Yourself
The least you can do for yourself is everything. “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” -Rumi Give your thoughts weight. Ask yourself, Who am I? What do I want? What do I like? How do I …
What 500 People Shared on Their Best Life Lessons From 2020
8 Takeaways… “What is your best life lesson in 2020?” I outsourced this question. I wanted to get the reader’s insight. I wanted to know what my blog readers have learned from this dark year. My email got swamped with responses from all over the world. My youngest subscriber is 21 years old from South …
10 of My Most Popular Articles of 2020
Hey friends, I want to take this time to say thank you. 2020 has been a heck of a road. We’ve limped through this year, and while the majority of us have not arrived here unscathed – we’ve arrived – and that alone is cause for immense gratitude. Thank you from the bottom of my …
Gentle Love May Be the Most Important Strategy to Conquer Fear This Year
Ask, “What would love to say to this fearful being?” What do you do when fear paralyzes you? Fear’s powerful presence in our lives has been magnified this year than any other year. 2020 feels like we cannot take a single step forward without fear marching right alongside us. It’s like a black hole is …
Wake Your 15-Year-Old Self Up: The Best Advice to Make Your Dreams a Reality
Dare to walk toward your dreams. “What I am is good enough if only I would only be it openly.” — Carl Rogers From the time my mom gave me a copy of Little Women, I knew I wanted to be a writer. I was 8 when I started devouring books left and right. While …
The ‘Perfect Happiness Recipe’, According to a Buddhist
Focus on your feelings, not what you’re experiencing. The German-born Buddhist nun, Ayya Khema, has a solution to the happiness problem. Imagine an experience that made you happy. Maybe it’s the first time you had fallen in love. Happiness curled your toes when the object of your desire walked into a room and you caught …
The Mental Hacks You Need to Level Up Your Self-Control
4 exercises that can help. Think of something you intended to do but ended up doing something else. Maybe you intended to speak calmly to your partner. Instead, you ended up throwing verbal punches. Maybe you intended to build a serious relationship with someone. Instead, you ended up going to late-night parties every night. Conjure …
One Book Explains How to Make Decisions Really Well
Choose enlargement over happiness. “Ask yourself of every dilemma, every choice, every relationship, every commitment, or every failure to commit: Does this choice diminish me, or enlarge me?” — James Hollis, in What Matters Most Most of us, most of the time, make decisions based on what makes us happy at the moment. What our …