4 signs you may have control issues in your relationship.

Love thrives when you take someone you love exactly as they are and you communicate who you are clearly and honestly so they can do the same for you.

This is the paradox of love: You can’t control another person’s behavior.

One of my friend’s relationship proves this.

Two years ago, she started a relationship with a marvelous man who smoked.

She loved him, but she hated his smoking.

How did my friend continue to love him?

She did not say, “If you love me, you should do what I’m asking you to do. If you smoke one more time, I’ve had it. I’m through with you.” She didn’t control him. She didn’t want to infringe on his independence.

She told him how she felt tactfully. “Your smoking is affecting your health. It bothers me you are doing something bad for you.”

After their discussion, he continued to smoke. While she was disappointed, her words did not affect him, she let the matter go.

Now, after two years, he wanted to stop smoking. She told him she loved him, no matter what. He assured her his decision was unrelated to her.

That’s loving someone without demanding that person to change for you.

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To your inspiration,

Banchi