“Anger is a hot coal you’re holding waiting to throw it at somebody.” A Buddhist quote

There is an inner core that is free no matter the external circumstances

Our mindset is not at the mercy of external events. Something makes us angry but that is not where we let the story end.

We create and conjure ill-thoughts that hurt us more than the thing that hurt us. And we choose to live and relive this hurt over and over again.

We choose to be angry and keep on holding the anger – forgetting the fact that it is a deadly and destructive emotion – and that it is destroying us every time we choose to keep it in us.

Yes, you might get hurt. Maybe you are hurting right now. This is called being alive.

What you can do is to remember your inner core.

You have the ability to choose what you feel. All the time.

In ‘Self-Awareness Is The Secret-Sauce To Managing Your Anger’, I have written how you have the ability to control your emotions in detail.

Stop telling yourself you deserve to be angry

Let us NOT make anger our constant and irritating companion.

Treat yourself the way you would treat the person you love the most. You would not want them to suffer all the time, would you?

That is what holding anger does to us.

We suffer. Endlessly. Pointlessly.

In ‘Why You Shouldn’t Give Power To Your Anger!’ I’ve written why you should not give your own power to the emotion called anger.

If you say that you are always in control of your anger, think again. Every time you are provoked by someone or something and you get angry as a result – it is not you who is in control.

If forgiving is hard, just focus on yourself

This is not about the person who hurt you or made you angry. This is about you.

Forgiveness heals us, my friend.

Slowly. Steadily. Imperceptibly.

It always wins.

When we forgive, it is like a blanket of peace washing over us.

If you cannot forgive the other person, forgive yourself – for holding grudges, for thinking ill-thoughts towards the other person, for holding anger in your heart.

Do this not for the sake of the other person – but for yourself.

Read ‘Key Inspirational Benefits of Forgiveness!’

Embrace forgiveness over hatred/anger/resentment

May you choose love over hate.

May you choose forgiveness over holding grudges – because holding grudges is pointless and people who hold them are petty.

May you choose to let go of destructive emotions.

May you choose your well being over anything else.

Here are some of my favorite quotes about “Anger”:

“How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it.” Marcus Aurelius

“Whenever you are angry, be assured that it is not only a present evil but that you have increased a habit.” Epictetus

“To control aggression without inflicting injury is the art of peace.” Morihei Ueshiba

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else. You are the one getting burned.” Buddha

“No man can think clearly when his fists are clenched.” George Jean Nathan

“If you kick a stone in anger, you’ll hurt your own foot.” Korean Proverb

Related Link: The Greatest Enemy Of My Anger Is ——

To your inspirations,

Banchi