Give space. Of all the romantic gestures, standing guard over the solitude of the one you love triumphs everything else. This choice is an act of strength and self-transcendence when all one wants is closeness. This difficult act may be the very thing – perhaps the only thing – that saves your relationship over and …
Month: September 2021
The ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Get’ Feminist Idea Is Failing Women
We want equal opportunities where we could compete with our male counterparts. There’s a feminist idea that seems like it’s empowering but actually puts women at a disadvantage. A couple of weeks ago, some of my male colleagues were given a salary raise as part of their annual review process. I was not given one. …
Relationship Advice From a 1960s Experiment About Not Setting Out to Prove a Point to Your Partner
You don’t build your relationship when you settle for proving yourself right. In the 1960s, Peter Wason, a psychologist, conducted an experiment. It is called a 2-4-6 task. It’s a fascinating riddle where you get to play with numbers. In the riddle, a sequence of three numbers governs its rule. Some sequences pass the rule …
Stop Treating People Like Pawns In a Game
Treating our loved ones like game pieces accomplishes the opposite of what we want. Too often, we treat people as pawns in a game. We do this especially to those we love the most. An experienced chess player knows when to move his pawns, how to move them, and when to sacrifice them — to …
How Keeping My Eyes On My Own Work Helped Me Build a Successful Online Business
And 6 ways to help you keep your eyes on your work instead of comparing it to someone else. Imagine this situation: You spent last year working 24/7, every day to build your online business from the ground. Finally, your hard work pays off and your business starts depositing money in your bank account. You …
Guardians Who See Us Through Our Grief In a Global Pandemic
On people, places, and things that see us in our lowest points Sometimes the most unexpected gesture saves you from drowning in sorrow. Sometimes simple things like the sun rays playing with the golden leaves lessen your grief. You close your eyes and remember loved ones whom you have lost with fondness. These simple things …
The Best Piece of Career Advice I’ve Ever Received: Make a ‘To-Feel’ List
Name your deepest yearnings and aspirations for your career. The first time I walked into a classroom, I was immediately smitten. It felt so natural and right. Teaching drew me in and left me wanting for more. Soon, I started daydreaming about going back to the classroom again and interacting with my students. I prepared …
Internet Is Why We’ve Forgotten What Hard Work Looks Like
Immediacy is a big problem in today’s society. We have, to a great extent, lost those most virtuous of qualities. Patience, determination, resolve, persistence, perseverance, endurance, pushing forward, resisting obstacles, and discouragement. We’ve sold them for a false, glittering deity of instant gratification. Today, internet has changed the way we live our lives more than …