“The most important question to ask is “what am I becoming?” Jim Rohn

“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” Jim Rohn

Being your own person and living according to your own standards is incredibly difficult.

It is difficult because we are surrounded by people who are trying to be themselves and in the process are pulling us towards million directions.

When I feel like I am being pulled into many directions, I retreat. I take a step back. I don’t want to turn my back on myself. This is a daily exercise that I do to remind myself that I love myself and I will try my very best to not become someone I cannot stand.

I do that by becoming conscious of my daily actions.

If someone at work is having a bad day and he/she is taking it out on everybody else in the environment, I remind myself that these feelings that somebody else has are not mine and as such are temporary. As surely as this feels like there will never again be a good day, the fact is it will pass. Even if I am the one who is having a bad day, it will get better. As impossible as this seems right now, this feeling passes.

That is true just as the sun will always rise in the morning.

I consciously try to observe my actions. I ask myself ‘Am I doing the best I can on this day? Or am I being lazy unconsciously because everybody else is doing a bare minimum?’ I identify the source of my actions. If I am responsible for my comfort zone, I confront myself. You are much better than this. You can do so much better than this on this day.If I am being lazy because the people around me are always lazy, then I shout to myself ‘Get out before you become somebody else you will not recognize one day.’

I try not to be provoked into any negative emotions. Honestly, I am so very tired of being pulled into anger, useless confrontations, insults, and negativity. My friends know this about me. It is very very difficult to make me angry and out of control. When people see that about me, they falsely assume that it is easy to stay away from anger and any other negative emotions. I tell them it is not. I improve on myself every day. I surround myself with people who are thriving to beat anger because they hate it just like I do. I love to teach others. When you help someone – you heal.

I make a list of things on the kind of person I want to be. If I do not write it, I will not remember it. I want to be a good friend. A listener. A good communicator. I want to empathize with others as much as possible.

I remind myself that this is a daily practice. That I ought to do all these things every day. That the only way I can drive my own life is if I am sitting on the driver’s seat – nobody else.

To your inspirations,

Banchi