The least you can do for yourself is everything. Instead of giving self-compassion a special, VIP pass right into our soul, we stand guard against it asking it to leave immediately. In the 1950s, the well-known psychologist Harry Harlow examined the development of the attachment system. It is not just us who need attention, care …
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You Don’t Find Your Dream Career, You Build It
A career that energizes you instead of depleting you does not land on your lap. You build it. He had a lucrative career as a doctor or a researcher. And yet, he ditched everything for the unpredictable life of an author. He had graduated from Harvard Medical School. He had done a post-doctoral fellowship study …
Love Is Not Possessive
Healthy love wants your loved one to be happy, even if that happiness is with someone else. He ran away from me like he was escaping from a prison cell. We were in our 20’s and our love was epic. I loved him. He said he loved me. That meant he belonged to me. Earth …
How To Know When To Quit
Here are ways you can stop banging your head against a wall and instead walk through an open door. Yes, yes. Persevere. Endure. Push forward, steadfast. Don’t ever quit. Except, sometimes quitting is good for you. What is this effort and pride — without any reward — costing you? Are there amazing things you could be doing with the same amount …
Don’t Run From Vulnerability, Embrace It
You should stop trying to seal your heart. Remaining in emotional solitary confinement costs us. There is a cost to making your heart neatly sealed, safe from the joys and sorrows of life. I never heard my dad talk about his feelings. He never told me he loved me in words. He sucked it all …
What Winning An Argument Really Means
It’s not about trying to win come hell or high water. Some people are experts in delivering the perfect knock-out verbal punches. Maybe you’ve noticed. They have the just-right poison of cocktail of words. They drop these bombs to you and you stand there, powerless and hurt. I was in a company meeting the other …
Delightfully Discovering This Interesting Person You Are Through Exploring
Nobody will be able to find the you, you are looking for, for you. In high school, competition among students helped us to know our friends better. A teacher would pick a student and ask about his close friend. What is his close friend’s favorite food? Favorite sport? Favorite color? What does he like? Is …
What My Artist Friend Teaches Me About Life
Life is something you can create, rather than something that happens to you. Her workspace is a beautiful mess. I have no idea how she creates art from what I am looking at. There are brushes all over the place. Some paintings are half-started. There are gigantic canvases and small ones. Only a small number …
I Hope You Are Devouring Life
I hope your heart is unsealed, taking in all the joys and sorrows of life. I hope whatever has or will happen in your life, no matter what chasms you cross, heights you scale, or how many people you love and are loved by, when all is said and done and you take that final …
Are You Looking For New Year Resolutions? Here Are 8 Ideas
For anyone who doesn’t know where to start. “Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.” — Oprah Winfrey 1. What is your story? Who are you? What do want to achieve in your life? What is something your heart desires? What is that something that keeps following you …