Tag: Self

Self

Please Stop Telling Empty Platitudes to People Who Are Going Through a Rough Time

They are hollow. Platitudes are words that are used not for connection, but for distancing – to make the person uttering them feel safer.   My best friend is in the midst of a crisis right now. She just had a miscarriage. These days, she sinks into sadness too deep for words. She may appear …

Emotional Intelligence, Emotions

How to Grow From Difficult Emotions

Pay attention to all the colors that form your emotional palette. We assume difficult emotions, mean demons within, shatter us when they suffocate us. We deny these battles we wage daily their right to feel and end up suffering. We forget difficult emotions, when unprocessed, stagnate and fester. They acidify and become corrosive. Difficult emotions, …

Emotions

How To Heal When Painful Emotions Break You

Lesson from the unforgettable painful emotions recovery advice my grandfather gave me. Have you ever wished to expel the demons your painful emotions create in your body? Have you ever wished to shine a light on your painful emotions? Have you ever wished to enter into the room where you’ve locked your painful emotions and …

Emotions, Self

Don’t Run From Vulnerability – Embrace It

Stop trying to seal your heart. Remaining in emotional solitary confinement costs us. There is a cost to making your heart neatly sealed, safe from the joys and sorrows of life. I never heard my dad talk about his feelings. He never told me he loved me in words. He sucked it all in, where …

Emotions, Self

Guardians Who See Us Through Our Grief In a Global Pandemic

On people, places, and things that see us in our lowest points Sometimes the most unexpected gesture saves you from drowning in sorrow. Sometimes simple things like the sun rays playing with the golden leaves lessen your grief. You close your eyes and remember loved ones whom you have lost with fondness. These simple things …

Self

6 Ways To Give Self-Compassion a Special, VIP Pass Right Into Your Soul

The least you can do for yourself is everything. If one is cruel to himself, how can we expect him to be compassionate with others? — Hasdai Ibn Shaprut, 10th C. Jewish Scholar Did you know newborn monkeys crawled to a mother who touched and cradled them instead of running to enticing milk? The well-known …

Self

Counting Your Blessings Might Make You Feel Better in These Troubled Times

Even in the middle of a great struggle, there are things to be thankful for. “Wear gratitude like a cloak and it will feed every corner of your life.” -Rumi Counting your blessings with clear intention might make you feel better in these troubled times. While I would love to grow old with my best …

Emotions, Self

The ‘Perfect Happiness Recipe’, According to a Buddhist

Focus on your feelings, not what you’re experiencing. The German-born Buddhist nun, Ayya Khema, has a solution to the happiness problem. Imagine an experience that made you happy. Maybe it’s the first time you had fallen in love. Happiness curled your toes when the object of your desire walked into a room and you caught …