“You cannot tailor make your situation in life, but you can tailor make your attitudes to fit those situations.” Zig Ziglar

I would like to tell you that I have always been a positive person but that is not true. I used to be pulled easily into people’s drama and behaviors. By the end of the day I would look at myself and wonder:

“Who am I? Whose behavior am I exhibiting today? Whose attitude am I copying?”

It wasn’t until much later in life that I realized I should take control of my own attitude. Because expecting your attitude to be yours when you have given the power to change it to others consciously or unconsciously is foolish thinking.

Saying that we don’t own our attitude might seem preposterous but if anyone (except ourselves) is making us angry or lose our control then that person is in control of our attitude.

That is why I say:

“Attitude is not something that should be left alone”

If you have a beautiful garden in your home, would you leave it on its own?

If it is a matter of can or can’t, of course, you can. But you will not. Because it is your garden and you want to take care of it. You want it to be the best in your neighborhood.

Then why are you not doing the same for your mind, for yourself?

Without you giving your mind what you want, it will not produce the result you want.

“Without sowing, you cannot reap.”

Think of these scenarios:

·If you think you can change the behavior of your friend and everything will be all right,

·If you think you cannot stand the attitude of your boss one more day,

·If you are complainingcontinuously,

·If you are venting, and the thing you are complaining about gets bigger and bigger and you are not in control of it at all,

·If you cannot stand any particular person in your life,

·If you blame others for your behavior and you do so every single day,

Then the problem lies not in the outside world but in you (you are the common denominator in the above scenarios).

To change yourself, you must look inside. It is where the solution is. Not outside.

Looking for any kind of solution from the outside is like:

“This was exactly like breaking an arm and placing a cast on the arm of the other. You can’t manage all the things you feel by controlling somebody else. That’s just not where the fracture is.” Dushka Zapata

That is a beautiful saying from one of my favorite Quora writers –Zapata. Put it simply, the problem is in you and you are looking for the solution somewhere else.

Zoom in on yourself. Remind yourself that you can learn to change how you feel if you don’t like what you feel. Remember your garden – you would take out every weed from it. Do the same for yourself.

Find people who continuously try to see the light in situations – not the darkness.

Be with them and share the light. If you do not act on positivity, no one will see it. You will not see it. And through time you will forget what positivity looks like. You will forget to be kind. You will forget to be grateful. You will forget to show compassion. You will forget to forgive. You will forget to love.

“They do not love that do not show their love.” William Shakespeare

Ask yourself:

“Do you see the sky every day? Do you see the color of it every day?”

If you are, I am envious of you. I would like to be with you so that I will be reminded of it every day.

I forget how blessed I really am. I forget to look at how beautiful the sky is. Because I am writing to you outside I am looking at the sky – now. But I have to remind myself every day to be consciously aware of everything beautiful from this world.

“The sky is blue. People who see could look up and escape any time, but we forget we can so we almost never do.” Dushka Zapata

The same is true for our positivity. Yours and mine.

It is in us. We just have to remember every day this precious thing that we have in our possession.

“If we do, nothing in the outside will ever be able to diminish the light in us.

If we forget, the slightest crack in the outside will take out the light in us.”

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To Your Inspirations,

Banchi