Honor the promise you make to yourself.

Let’s pretend I have a secret.

I believe I don’t trust myself and thus I operate under that assumption. I am convinced that I can no longer trust myself. Because of a failed relationship.

Examples of how I don’t trust myself anymore look like: I am not kind to myself, I don’t spend time with myself, I don’t forgive myself, I am not keeping my promises — the promises I made to myself, I am not taking care of myself, blaming myself for a broken relationship.

I’m unkind to myself. I don’t jump at every chance to be with myself and love myself.

But then, wait a minute. This isn’t right. I am being resentful towards myself. I am hurting myself by not being kind to myself.

Not trusting yourself is a symptom of a lack of self-love.

I should not have let it go this far. Another symptom that you don’t love yourself is you turn your back on yourself. You are not kind to yourself. You hold grudges towards yourself. You do not forgive yourself. Being with yourself and enjoying yourself is the furthest thing on your mind.

Trusting in yourself is hard. Especially when you believe that others have betrayed you. When you have put your trust in them. You think that this is a sign that I can’t trust myself.

It must mean my judgment is not sound. But trusting yourself is essential. It’s healthy. It’s how I love myself. How I respect myself.

Look around you. Those who love themselves trust themselves. For every decision they made: both the good ones and the bad ones. Without self-love, you cannot give to others. You cannot trust in yourself.

I need to honor myself enough to acknowledge that I must be kind to myself. This love is mine. Nobody can take it from me.

Yesterday I was holding grudges towards myself. I don’t want to hold them anymore. I cannot love when I am holding toxic things. I have not been kind to myself for a long time. I am learning to be kind to myself now.

Loving myself is a continuous process. It is a life-long exercise that we often need to remind ourselves again and again. I am giving up friends who are not good to me. I am exercising gratefulness for all the love that surrounds me.

I’m trusting myself by showing the love I deserve to myself.

Yes, yes. Be kind to yourself. Love yourself. Be resolved in this matter. Persist. Resist your head that sometimes becomes the worst enemy. Don’t ever turn your back on yourself.

Trusting yourself is awesome and incredibly good for you.

If you feel unworthy of love, like you can’t trust yourself anymore, like you have no idea how to get back to yourself, step one is to decide: you are worthy of love. Of your love.

Take small actions daily. Take care of yourself. Buy a book for yourself. Go to a gym. Or join a book club. Sit in front of a fire and be. Change your wardrobe. Change the style of your hair. Just go. Do something for yourself.

In parallel, talk to someone who has your best interest. Do a little bit of reading. How will you love yourself? What will you do to trust yourself again? What works best for you?

In a life that feels hectic, this alone can get you back on track. It can make you take the first step. It will give you clear goals to move towards.

You will feel like you can trust yourself again. You will feel less angry with yourself. You will feel gratitude for the love that you have. Even for the one, you have lost. You will be kind to yourself.

You will gain confidence in trusting yourself as you begin to see all the love you have inside you.

As one thing falls into place, other things will follow.

This is not easy. It’s not magic. But it’s a must.

When you feel lost, like you can never trust yourself, all you need is one small thing, a hint.

So here. I will give it to you: it is yourself.