Stories of Black Women
You can learn to take your emotional temperature and deal with your emotions. I regret every action I took when uncontrollable emotions enslaved me. Last week, someone standing behind me in a supermarket said something awful to me and I stood there, powerless and hurt. I wanted to smack this stranger who watched me with …
Pay attention to all the colors that form your emotional palette. We assume difficult emotions, mean demons within, shatter us when they suffocate us. We deny these battles we wage daily their right to feel and end up suffering. We forget difficult emotions, when unprocessed, stagnate and fester. They acidify and become corrosive. Difficult emotions, …
Lesson from the unforgettable painful emotions recovery advice my grandfather gave me. Have you ever wished to expel the demons your painful emotions create in your body? Have you ever wished to shine a light on your painful emotions? Have you ever wished to enter into the room where you’ve locked your painful emotions and …
Stop trying to seal your heart. Remaining in emotional solitary confinement costs us. There is a cost to making your heart neatly sealed, safe from the joys and sorrows of life. I never heard my dad talk about his feelings. He never told me he loved me in words. He sucked it all in, where …
On people, places, and things that see us in our lowest points Sometimes the most unexpected gesture saves you from drowning in sorrow. Sometimes simple things like the sun rays playing with the golden leaves lessen your grief. You close your eyes and remember loved ones whom you have lost with fondness. These simple things …
Become vulnerable to participate fully in the emotional grandeur and poignancy of life. My 8-year-old friend’s smile is more powerful than the blazing of the sun. Even though he has lost his parents when he was 2, he loves fiercely. I met Abel at an orphanage a couple of months ago. It would be easy …
Focus on your feelings, not what you’re experiencing. The German-born Buddhist nun, Ayya Khema, has a solution to the happiness problem. Imagine an experience that made you happy. Maybe it’s the first time you had fallen in love. Happiness curled your toes when the object of your desire walked into a room and you caught …
You are not unproductive for pulling over, resting, and waiting. You cannot keep driving down the highway if something blocks your vision. Right now, being productive means refraining our dramatically changed goals. These days, I slumber in my soft blanket for hours -without doing anything. Every time I try to think of an article idea, …
“You can’t heal what you can’t feel. ” – Dr. Edith Eva Eger Feelings are fierce and wild. They don’t take well to anyone trying to domesticate them. They are impetuous. And their sole job is to make themselves heard. Are you marching through the crisis of the coronavirus pandemic stoically, your heart neatly sealed, …
You must give love because you have it to give. Spending time with my grandfather was one of the most memorable moments of my life. He was a charismatic man where he built his home by sharing his love. Month after month, year after year, I had seen the way he loved his wife. I had …