And why you need to be aware of your anger so it doesn’t become your boss. When I am angry I wonder what on earth I can do to not be angry. My anger disappoints me – I should be able to control, contain myself. I’ve learned it’s not possible to not be angry. “Anger …
Category: Black women
Women Are Tired of The Stigma Around Female Rage
We want to see safe spaces for black women to express our justifiable anger. The stigma around female rage was, buried in the middle of a long paragraph, ‘too angry’. A few days ago, as part of a promotion conversation, my boss was giving me feedback and reading out a list of things that would …
How To Be Honorable As A Woman And Demolish The Double Standards
The two ways you can accept any special treatment as a privilege and not a right. Any special treatment a woman gets (such as not paying for lunch) is a privilege and not a right. Yes, I am a woman, and I came to this conclusion and I hate having to admit it. I have …
13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don’t Do
Lessons from Amy Morin’s book, 13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don’t Do. Women continue to face unique challenges in today’s world. Every woman who strives to become a little stronger today than she was yesterday needs to read Amy’s book. I recommended the book to one of my students when she asked for my advice. …
White Feminism Still Prevails
To be feminist in any authentic self, incorporating the challenges of racism is essential. I’m sick of participating in feminist spaces built for the needs of white women. I feel like at best, I can fight it, at worst I have to learn to cope in it. I’ve participated in feminist spaces where a large …
This Is What Every Woman Must Learn in Life
Eight important qualities. Her husband made all decisions in their company, not her. She needed him for every tiny detail. She spoke only inside her head, nodding to herself. She had no female friends. She showed little emotion beyond biting, cold indifference – unless pushed. Then, sometimes…came violent rage. She treated all her employees, both …
Women Are Still Judged Harshly for Being Emotional
We don’t have to self-censor, edit, and apologize for expressing our emotions. Perhaps we judge women for being emotional because we suppress our emotions. Perhaps we inhibit women from expressing their emotions because we were not allowed to do so ourselves. Perhaps we fear the emotional intensity of seeing someone express their emotions – especially …
Five Important Lessons I’ve Learned in Becoming a Strong Woman
#2 — Find your voice. Her husband made all decisions in their company. She needed his input for every tiny detail. She spoke only inside her head, nodding to herself. She had no female friends. She showed little emotion beyond biting, cold indifference — unless pushed. Then, sometimes…came violent rage. She treated all her employees, …