#1. Find a “real job” These awful career advices are like a powerful magnet that warps your belief about your career. They guide you to a career path you don’t like, but others want you to like. I know this from personal experience. They told me to find a “real job” when I told them …
Author: Banchiwosen
Founder and writer at Banchi Inspirations.
Teacher, blogger, freelance writer.
I own This Precious Dark Skin, a newsletter on Substack that publishes essays, short stories, and a little bit about Ethiopia.
You can reach me at bandaxen@gmail.com
7 Things I Learned From Watching My 32-Year-Old Friend Die With Regrets
“I regret not doing things I should have done in my 20s, Banchi.” My best friend whispered to me on her death bed. Her haunting words were her last words to me. I didn’t know that day would be the last time we would talk. I didn’t check on her the next day because I …
When the Future Feels Terrifyingly Unknown, Reflecting on Your Younger and Older Self Gives You Comfort
Reflection can offer healing, insight, and hope in these troubled times. In the past year, it’s felt like we’ve been pinned to the present; the past felt obsolete, and the future felt terrifyingly unknown. But there’s power in reflecting on our old selves and projecting what we want for our future selves. When your panic …
10 Things Emotionally Strong People Do
# 4. They process painful emotions. Do you ever wish you could be more emotionally strong? Do you ever feel like your emotions are all over the place? Or like your moods ping pong around erratically and unpredictably? Do you ever wish you could feel a little less at the mercy of external events — …
How To Do What You Love When School Has Taught You To Regard Work as an Unpleasant Duty
Work can literally be fun — fun like playing. Every night, an expensive SUV drops my friend in front of her home and picks her up every morning. Anyone looking at my friend’s life would find no problem. After all, the company she works for pays her well and she even has a personal chauffeur …
Counting Your Blessings Might Make You Feel Better in These Troubled Times
Even in the middle of a great struggle, there are things to be thankful for. “Wear gratitude like a cloak and it will feed every corner of your life.” -Rumi Counting your blessings with clear intention might make you feel better in these troubled times. While I would love to grow old with my best …
Five Important Lessons I’ve Learned in Becoming a Strong Woman
#2 — Find your voice. Her husband made all decisions in their company. She needed his input for every tiny detail. She spoke only inside her head, nodding to herself. She had no female friends. She showed little emotion beyond biting, cold indifference — unless pushed. Then, sometimes…came violent rage. She treated all her employees, …
I Owe 8-Years of Career Success to Doing Work I Love
Career success does not equal career duress. I love teaching and training others. It’s both a constant joy and a challenge. I earned every penny my 8-year teaching career provided for me because no one had to dangle a fat salary in front of me to compel me to go the extra mile. Too many …
One Book Explains What Everyone’s Getting Wrong About Emotional Intelligence
6 misconceptions worth changing your mind about. Almost everyone has heard of the term ‘EQ’ but most people have no idea of what it really is. My favorite description of EQ, emotional intelligence, comes from a wonderful book, The EQ Edge: “You might be as sharp as a tack, but if you can’t convey what …
It’s Possible to Have a Full-Time Job and a Full Personal Life
6 ways you can make the most of your time to find balance If tomorrow is my last day on earth, my life would end full — I have friends, family, and a rich personal life that I cultivated through the years. But for a long time, I had no personal life. My family and …