“To ask the right question is already half the solution to a problem.” –C.G. Jung

We ask a question that doubts. We ask a question that does not affirm. That does not show the path forward. “Can I achieve my hopes and dreams? Are they easy to achieve?” is a wrong question.

Self-doubt and low self-esteem have filled these questions. And they are asking if the road ahead is easy or not. It is not asking us whether we want to be in it or not.

“Do you want your hopes and dreams? Are they worth your time and effort?” is the right question. It asks whether we are willing to sacrifice our precious time and energy to get it. It asks for our inner desires. For what we want.

Sometimes asking the right question is the answer.

“Will I be too old in five years if I start what I want right now?” is a wrong question. The question does not ask us for our gut desire. You are asking yourself whether you are going to regret being old in a few years. You are not asking who you will be after 5 years if you do not start achieving your goals. 

“Who will you be in a five years if you do not start your path right now?” is the right question.

Sometimes asking the right question is the answer.

“Do I have the skills to achieve my goals?” does not push us out of our couch. If we don’t have the skills — we are going to say adios to what we want. There is nothing in the question that lures us into improving our skills. What we want to achieve in life will fade away into thin air through this question.

“Am I willing to improve my skills at any cost?” is the right question. There is no loophole in this question. There is ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer only. If the answer is no — that means you do not want to achieve your goals. If your answer is yes then you know that you would never abandon your skills behind.

Sometimes asking the right question is the answer. It is a life hack.

“Will my family support me?” “Will others make my path easier for me or harder for me?” These questions are not asking for what you want. They are asking about others. They are looking for validation from the outside world. Asking such questions is making us into a doormat. You are coming up with an answer about somebody else’s wants and needs. What about you? Why are you willing to walk away from yourself?

“Will I have my back?” “Will I stay by my side through the storm?” “Will I make myself my first choice in every up and down?” These questions ask about you. Whether you are going to stand by yourself between now and when you get what you are looking for.

Sometimes asking the right question is the answer.

“When should I start achieving my goals?” has no sense of urgency. The question does not help us in seizing today. It asks as if we have forever. We don’t. 

Sometimes asking the right question is the answer. So, I have one for you. “A month from now, 6 months from now, a year from now, how old will you be if you don’t start achieving your goals?”

“What if struggles come my way?” is a wrong question. It makes us look too hard for a scapegoat. The question makes us fearful –of the challenges that are going to come. It makes us worry. It tangles us emotionally. It does not prepare us. If we give in to the fear, it can cost us. All this because of a wrong question we are asking. With all the baggage the question is carrying, we will fall before the struggles come to us. Something had to give before you crumble under the weight of it all.

Sometimes asking the right question is the answer.

“How do I rise above my struggles?” is the right question. 

This question does not ask us whether struggles are going to come or not. Because we know that they will. It asks what we are going to do — when they do. It is a helpful and constructive question. Because, through it, we can develop our resilience and adaptation. 

We are not in the mantle of doom by thinking of “what if — — — ?”scenarios. We are instead doing a ton of inner work. Preparing ourselves for the coming unexpected twists and constant changes— that life has.

To your inspirations,

Banchi