Written by Banchi

Most of us hate any kind of disagreement or conflict in our communications. The feeling is hard to express exactly, because for anything that we have too strongly attachments – we fight.

But, we don’t fight for having more disagreements.

We do the exact opposite.

We run away from them as far as we can.

Why?

Because, we hate anger, confrontations, speaking up, discomfort, etc.

Most importantly WE DON’T WON’T OUR FEELINGS TO GET HURT.

I am here today to fight for DISAGREEMENT in any communication.

Where there is a regular disagreement in a communication, there is these advantages —

#1. Open our eyes to new ideas

DISAGREEMENT is an effective vehicle for the generation of new ideas.

How?

It is through it, that we are forced to hear another person’s perception resulting in molding and clarifying our own.

That will make us stick more on our idea firmly or our eyes are opened to new perspectives on our ideas.

#2. Opportunity to verbalize needs

When we are face-to-face with disagreement, we have only two options.

• Speak Up and defend our ideas or someone else will BEAT us every time.

We are forced with this issue, as a result of DISAGREEMENT. We would not have spoken and put our needs out there – if not for the existence of the conflict.

#3. Teaches flexibility

As all of are uniquely different, that difference is exhibited MORE when we are in a DISAGREEMENT.

            What better way is there to show how people think, feel and act differently when they are in conflict?

When we are in conflict we are not only going to have others adjusting to us and our perspectives, but we will also be adjusting to others and their perspectives.

            You know what this adjustment will CREATE in our lives?

Humility and openness

What more could we want?

We now HOLD two admirable qualities as a result of our DISAGREEMENT.

#4. Makes us listen

We are forced to actively listen when we are in confrontations. The force is a good one in this case.

Why?

Because, listening is one of the most important KEY element in communication.

When we are forced to listen, we are being able to put ourselves and our thoughts to the side.  That makes us on the boat of the people we are confronting with.

And we are able to diffuse the conflict in the process, because we are fully taking another perspective in by actually trying to learn from the other person.

#5. Practice communication skills

This is the most amazing that results from having DISAGREEMENTS and confronting them.

As communication is a skill that requires self-control, patience and intelligence, we are required to be real and authentic.

You see, we will lose developing this skill if we end up not communicating our perspective out of some form of fear.

If communication skills is a subject you’re interested in, I’ve written an article about it. You can read it here.

#6. Emotional control

Confronting disagreements makes us learn to remain calm and to use the least amount of words to get our point across.

            Imagine being in control of yourself all the time?

Through the process of DISAGREEMENTS in a communication, we develop perseverance and self-control.

When we are in control of ourselves people can better relate to us.

My INTENTION today is not for you to go out and create conflict, but you SHOULD NOT be afraid to participate in conflict when it arises.

Deal with it and be open to the element of surprise.

To Your Inspiration, Banchi